Father's Day is Upon Us!
Our children are part us. They are a reflection of our past self. How will they know who they are if we don't tell them? There is a generation of men who have been hurt by their father and/or lack of his presence in their life. I feel your pain but not having a father present doesn't absolve any of us men from our responsibilities as men and fathers. It was a point in my life in which I wondered if my father loved me and because of that, I wouldn't let any other man love me. How could I? If my father didn't love me how could any other person love me? When I became a father I began to understand how complex fatherhood could be and with understanding came empathy and ultimately forgiveness. Nevertheless, with the healing of the wound a scar of remembrance was left behind.
We must take our lessons learned and apply them to the present ensuring the success of future generations. When I became a father I decided to make it a point that the children under my care know without a doubt I love them and I expect greatness from them. Even though I'm not perfect I understand how important it is to pour into them. The expectation is on us (fathers) being present and imparting wisdom on our next generation. As we celebrate Father's Day let us all recommit to being either the Father we always wanted or continuing the legacy of the Father's before us. Life isn't easy nor are some of the decisions and sacrifices we will have to make. Just remember they are watching how we deal with them and they will do the same. Set the standard for you seed (your child). Create fertile ground for them to be planted, water them and watch them grow. Happy Father's Day!